counselling for couples & families

what we believe

We do better together than we do apart. A happy relationship is directly correlated with improved health and increased longevity. The trouble is, living in close relationship is a skill, and we get absolutely no training in it. We get taught everything else: how to cross the road, brush our teeth, add up and take away, pass exams, write a cv, but nobody teaches us how to be in relationship with another human being — a human being who is completely different to us. We have to learn that all by ourselves, and we do it, as children, by watching our parents or the grown-ups we see on TV. And the truth is, our parents might not have been very good at it and the characters on TV were there for entertainment, not for education. Is it any wonder that when it comes to putting what we’ve learnt into practice, things don’t turn out quite the way we’d hoped?

Very few couples get together with the express intent of making each other unhappy, and yet very often that’s what ends up happening. Not because either of them are bad or cruel or selfish or uncaring, but because neither of them have the skills to make love stay. Couples counselling gives you those skills. And it works.